20161008_131309_resizedI tried something new this past weekend…dirt biking.  I’ve been an avid 4-wheeler for years and I’ve ridden on my dad’s motorcycle a few times, so I had confidence this would be a piece of cake…NOT! 

My hubby and I went with some friends who are experienced dirt bikers. I told them I had some experience so I didn’t foresee any problems. We started up the first trail (which was actually a pretty tough trail…not for beginners like me) and I was having a hard time just keeping my bike headed straight on the trail. It was actually a lot harder than I thought it would be.

Only minutes up the trail I had my first crash. My bike hit a large log that was halfway over the trail (I told you this was not a beginners trail) and I went flying and hit the log on my way over. This one really hurt, and I was bummed that I had done so poorly so quickly.

Then not more than 200 feet up the trail another crash! The bike just seemed to squirrel out from under me, I went flying to the ground. As I sat there on the ground in pain I thought “this is not me… I love outdoor recreation, I mean I snow ski, water ski, 4-wheel, scuba dive and I usually do well at most things I try.  But this time I was starting to think I had made a huge mistake…I couldn’t do this…I felt like a failure.

We continued for the next few hours riding on trails and mountain roads and I crashed yet again!  I found it was so much different riding a dirt bike than it was riding a 4-wheeler. I didn’t even know if I was going to be able to make it back to our truck. I was embarrassed, I felt like a failure, and I didn’t want to ride anymore because I was scared of getting hurt even more. But thank goodness I was pretty much forced to finish.

Now WHY am I telling you this story??? Because there is a business lesson in this.  On the way back to our truck I was scared and worried that I would crash my bike again.  But then, as we arrived back to the truck and I turned my cycle off I had this feeling of confidence wash over me…quite by surprise! I don’t know where it came from, but there it was.  I had done something hard, something that scared me, something I feel like I failed at, and something that I really had my doubts about finishing!

Now, have you ever felt that way in business? Have you ever been scared to do a webinar, speak to an audience, or created a program that someone may purchase and then you would have to teach?

Sometimes to gain more confidence we have to first do something hard, something that scares us, something we think is even impossible to do. Sometimes we gain confidence from our failures. You cannot let  fear of failure stop you from doing things that can make you successful. Doing things that are scary and hard, that you may fail at and have to pick yourself up off the ground and finish, can bring you confidence to move to a new level in your business or your life.

So that day on the mountain did I become a better biker? Not by a long shot, in fact I’ll probably never go dirt biking again. But I did gain more confidence in my ability to do hard things.

So I would like to challenge you this week to stretch yourself and step out and do something that you’ve been wanting to do but have been putting off…something that seems too hard or the “failure factor” scares you. Make the decision to “just do it” and see what happens.

Comment below and tell me your results!

Author: Julee

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2 thoughts on “Failure can actually give you confidence

  1. Yes it is true cause failure give us strength to continue getting what we want and serves as an inspiration!

    Posted on October 26, 2016 at 12:57 AM
    1. You are so right Rodrigo, it can serve as inspiration and give us strength too. It’s just sometimes hard for us to see it that way.
      BTW I know this reply is coming late, I’ve been having some technical issues with my post delivery. But it’s all good now and I appreciate you commenting!

      Posted on November 11, 2016 at 1:14 PM